My Daughter

Ok, yes I know it's been a while... and yes I know you have been sitting waiting very patiently for a new and outstanding blog...but I don't think I'm going to have one today. 

A little back ground... I coached college basketball and high school basketball.  Some of you know basketball is my life and my passion and everything I tend to live for....... so when I coach I tend to adopt the girls as my own.  Well if you count how many I still stay in contact with unfortunately it's not that many....but one that I still talk to (Not as much as I should) every now and then was ALWAYS like my daughter.  Wait she WAS my daughter.  Every time I had to take her to the hospital when she was sick or hurt she kept telling them I was her mom!  Well anytime a player would get sick or hurt I was the one to take them to the doctor....so the nurses saw me A LOT!  So yeah, I'm sure you know where this is going......one day I told her you tell them I'm your mom you are running!  Well, she was on her best behavior and then she called me GRANDMA!  Oh I sooo wanted to hurt her!!!  So I from here on out LOVED "MOM"....... Things happened with that job and so we parted ways and lost touch until I lived in Chicago and she played in Chicago!  We were back to our mother daughter relationship in no time..... UGHHHH KIDS!  :-)  So when I moved to Maryland we still sent text messages and when I took my dad and his friends to a Greenbay vs Bears game in Chicago I got to see her.  She was happy and loving life and all that worry was for NOTHING!  She had it all.  I was such a proud mom!  Well I don't know if you remember a couple weeks back, but at the Indy State Fair the stage fell on some Sugarland fans and 5 were killed instantly and 40 were injured.....well her girlfriend was killed and my player was injured.  I feel my world was shattered.... I had so many thought going through my head..... I was in Chicago a couple weeks sooner and I didn't make time to see her and meet her girlfriend.  I was "too busy", but really, she is my kid....how was I too busy to see my kid and to meet the love of her life that was making her soo happy?  I am regretting not spending the time or making the time for my daughter...... really what's more important than family?  I am getting updates on her condition, she just got released to go back to Chicago on Monday and I hear she is doing a lot better.  I am saddened that I have not been able to talk to her and hear her voice, but I pray everyday for her recovery and for her heart to be healed.  She really means the world to me and someday I will have a daughter of my own and I hope and pray she is exactly like Alisha! 

I love you kid and wish you a speedy recovery! 
Coach

WOW... What's your price on your price tag?

I was reading my friends facebook page and you know you see all this "stuff" and some is BLAH BLAH BLAH or some is just not worth reading so I try to skim through and if it's good I feel it will jump out and say "READ ME"..... well this did:

If you are not being treated with love and respect, check your price tag.  Perhaps you have marked yourself down.  It’s YOU who tells people what you’re worth by what you accept.  Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass where they keep the valuables!  Bottom line: Value yourself more!  If you don’t, no one else will!  Skip the nose in the air arrogance, it’s not pretty, but hold your head up and smile. 

Now everyone can agree that we as women tend to sell ourselves short!  I know for me, I find "love" in all the wrong places.  I think I'm in "love" but really I'm no where close.  I tend to go with the first dude that gives me attention and we all know how that relationship is going to end.  Right now, I have a couple "friends" that I'm talking to and I keep saying if I can somehow make them ONE guy I would be in heaven for the rest of my life.  I can talk with each guy for HOURS and still have something to say or talk about and we could just smile, laugh and have a good time....they are each totally different in their own ways, but still makes me feel amazing and lucky to have them in my life.  Now the impatient person that I am would like to rush things a long and ask for more....but right now it's nice to sit back and raise my price!  I deserve the best and I deserve to be treated with respect!  

But just thought you would enjoy that, or I hope you do as much as I do!

Kimberly  

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. - W. Churchill

I send quotes to a "friend" (which is another story for another day!) and he sends them off to the high school basketball girls that he works with and kind of mentors.  So last week I sent this quote to him and I read it and thought "WOW, this really is good".  As you can see I'm using it as a quote almost a week and a half later and that's only because HE sent it back to ME today!  He said that he saw this quote this morning and liked it and thought of me.  But for some reason when I read it this morning it seemed to hit more than when I found it and sent it to him!  It could be that I have a lot on my plate and mind, or it could be that he knows that I need motivation just like everyone else. 

This quote for me could go a couple different ways!  I tend to make a life on what I give... I give everything I have to help make everyone else's life better.  I coach, I network, I babysit, I do it all!  I give give give and honestly wouldn't have it any other way.  But my life wasn't always like this and that is what is the hard part....my mom and I were driving home from a friends house the other day and she asked me "what do you miss most about being married" and I don't know if I really had an answer for her but it got me thinking.  She then added "not like you guys lived the married life and communicated and all"....which really got me thinking about things because in all honesty we really almost lived like roommates it felt like sometimes!  So I thought long and hard for a good answer and the only one I honestly could come up with is "I miss doing the little things for someone".  I used to bake muffins and cookies for my husband to take to work, I miss cooking for someone other than myself (no, we didn't even eat dinner together!).  I miss doing the little things that make life worth living!  And I never expected anything in return, not that I would have gotten anything from him.  Then she proceeds to tell me that since I have been back home I have done a complete change in my life.  I am much more happier, I'm more confident, I am more outgoing and the list went on and on.  Which when I was in Maryland I wasn't the happiest person, I wasn't the most positive person and I sure wasn't active or allowed to be active in anything!  And I don't take the credit for any of changes that I made..... it sure took me a couple months to even begin to look at life differently.  I give the credit to God for not allowing me to give up when life (which was a thought more than once!) was beyond hard and not worth living at times, but also the support that I got from my friends and family.  They stuck it out with me, they knew I wasn't happy and they knew I wasn't myself.....but they were there for me and they encouraged me and gave me the words I needed to hear to get me through that day or that week!  Because of them I get to give myself, my dreams, and my knowledge to help young kids learn and love basketball and life the way I do! 

So can you do me a favor today...... do something "little" today either for a friend, a family member or your spouse!  And when I say this I don't mean you should expect something in return from them..... just make their day! 
Kimberly

Accept what you can't change, change what you can't accept

A friend sent me this quote Sunday when I was having a VERY BAD day!  It seemed like everything I did and everything I said just either was taken wrong or I heard wrong.  So I found a quote and sent one to her because she wasn't having such a good weekend and her quote I sent was......."Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't care and those you care don't mind".  Well if that was the case we would all be in trouble I bet!  :-)  But personally I think these quotes relate to everyone's lives in some way shape or form. 

Anyway..... "Accept the things you can't change".  Well for starters what is it that I can't change?  What is it that I CAN change?  What can I accept?  This quote could be broken down in many ways of course....but the things I can not change are someones feelings toward me.  They either like me or they don't.  They either want to be friends or they don't.  I am who I am because of the walk and journey I have been on and the fires I have walked through made me the strong person that I am....take me or leave me.  I can't change the debt ceiling "stuff" nor do I even want to tackle it honestly, I can't change the sick or the poor.... so I guess I better accept it!  But the things I can't accept like me being "fluffy", me being busy, me being surly and crabby....now those things I can change.  And only I can change those.  I can't depend on you to change them I can't depend on the neighbor or anyone else.... I have to be the one to change the things that I personally can't accept.  So this week, after a not so good doctor's appointment I will be having surgery in a couple weeks so time to prepare myself for TOTALLY no working out for 6 weeks!  I got back on the plan and yes I even ran a mile and a half!  ;-)  I can also change the support and help that I receive from others.  People have been there and done this before I have..... I feel they are going to be the ones that get me through this!  I have a couple great WW leaders and amazing supporters in my meetings that will give me the added push and support I will need to stay on track as I heal and get back to running and training for my marathon!!!! 

I hope everyone has a wonderful day and remember accept the things you can't change, but change the things you can't accept!!!!
Kimberly